Just in case your wondering…

So you’re probably thinking this young mother doesn’t know what she’s doing and negligent. Or that I’m crazy for wanting to share something that should be private with the world.

But I want to say you’re wrong and my baby girl is a healthy breastfed baby, and she’s very well taken care of.

I’ve been a stay at home mom for 8 months and smoking weed keeps me sane.

I used to be so free always in and out of the car. Always working and thinking of a way for me to progress and perfect my craft. I had multiple jobs and prior to mom life and I smoked my blunts regularly…probably since high school.

Don’t let old ideas of a pot Head fool you. Ya girl is smart. I graduated high school with my cosmetology license. Worked as a hairstylist in the salon and freelance going on 7 years.

I did try college and honestly it wasn’t for me. I paid for 1 semester to realize that all that money and time wasted when I could purchase a book myself and study it and obtain the same knowledge without having to travel to sit in someone’s class.

Mind you I’m a terrible at math. And my math class was in a computer lab with no teacher. I was fed TF up and I refused to pay the school…. but of course ended up paying later because I’m scared of debt 😬🤦🏾‍♀️

I went on to become a body waxer at 19 while studying in school to be a Cosmetology educator, —one of the youngest to take the program at my beauty school. Because I was so young I wasn’t sure if being a teacher was really something I wanted to do so by 21 I was a licensed massage therapist.

Being so driven to work for myself and not have to punch a clock, last year I branched off starting my own massage and wax business at my in home studio and created my first product offering CBD body butter.

Please do understand, ya girl is no slouch. I understand what it is to struggle and work to get what I want.

But what I will say is this we black women are strong and should be worshiped for what we do. We bring forth life and then love it unconditionally. Whose to say I can’t find my peace at the end of the day sparking up.

I love my baby girl dearly and I’ve never had any love greater. Smoking weed allows me the patience I didn’t have initially to love my girl through all those crying fits, the endless cluster feeds, sore cracked nipples, PPD, hourly wakings, early mornings, and late nights

But just know at the end of the day to clear my mind of the fog I roll my Ls, spark it, and I’ll laugh the days pain, sadness, depression, fear, anxiety away. While simultaneously revealing my inner goofy, joyful, & happy self.

Love Always,

SBM – Nicole 💛💛


Who is Stoned Black Mom?

My Name is Nicole. I’m a 23 year old black woman. Born July 3rd and i’m a Cancer… rising sun sign Cancer and my moon sign Aquarius. I feel things deeply and have a hard to read exterior.  I’m a mom to one inquisitive girl- Nideira who’s now 8 months old.

I’m A Hairstylist, I’m an entrepreneur(CannaSpaMassage.com) I’m a Licensed Cosmetology Educator, Cosmetologist, And Massage and Bodywork therapist.

Oh… and Lastly I’m a stoner 🙂 

What’s encouraged me to start this blog was the need for a creative outlet for myself and also a way to share every aspect of my interest in one platform. I want a place where I can go and feel welcomed to speak to other women and parents with similar interest, who don’t want to feel guilty or be shamed for wanting to spark up at the end of that long day of getting shit done or not getting shit done and taking care of your baby. You earned that mama!

After googling things like “Black stoner mom” always looking for women who can actually relate and look like me, I’ve joined countless Facebook groups and I have yet to come across any women of color where I felt comfortable enough to actually hit post on that comment sharing my nightly unwind activities for fear of being judged. But recently I came across an article of a black girl saying we’re an underrepresented group in the stoner community and I can’t agree more.

I always thought of starting a youtube but truly words are more my style than setting up a camera and trying to be perfect. So Fuck it. I’ll just let the words flow with my crazy hair… 2 day old nursing shirt, and hopefully a sleeping baby lol while I sneak to the back room to light one with my man. 

Black stoner moms and friends we have a place to talk freely and be ourselves. No consequences. 

With that being said I’d like to create our safe place of no judgement where we can casually talk about our day and the recreational use of marijuana while we take care of our children responsibly.

Here we’re going to talk: Self-care; Black-Baby Hair Care; CBD-Marijuanna Education; Smoking Parenting Responsibly; BreastFeeding Journey; Working from home and more.

Nicole at 7 months pregnant.